How not to come across to Strong ( Actual word INTENSE ) in an interview.
Silento Thomas posed this question to me via LinkedIn.
A friend of mine keeps interviewing for roles, and she isn’t getting the offers. I think she is coming across way to strong in the interviews. Do you have any advice that I might be able to relay to her. Every interview she has gone for, the feedback has been that she has all the qualifications and experience, it is just a personality mismatch.
Silento, I have this problem with some of the candidates I represent from time to time as well. It is hard problem to address because when one speaks, they seldom listen to themselves to hear how they are coming across.
Here are traits that the interviewer is picking up on when you are speaking. Depending on how you answer the below questions, you might come across as to Strong ( or a term we all can relate to ) INTENSE ! 🙁
- Are you listening to the question poised before answering?
- Are you taking 2 minutes to address a question instead of 20 seconds?
- Are you answering the question or talking about something more general?
- Do you begin sentences with “No”? Even when agreeing with a point?
- Do you ask questions during the interview?
- When asking questions, do you interrupt the interviewer responding before they are finished.
- Are you coming across as someone that will learn from peers, subordinates?
- Do your responses sound like you are talking down to the interviewer?
- Do you ever talk over the interviewer.
- Do you pause to reflect before speaking?
- Do you ever, when speaking in the interview to your past experience in a group use the term “We” or “They” as in the group, or is every pronoun used focus on “I”?
Be reflective of these traits, you may be coming across as too intense. No one wants to work with a person who is portraying an image of a professional that will not work well with others. The MY WAY or the HIGHWAY persona.
Silento I hope I answered your question. And I would approach your friend and ask them these questions… Try to see if they can be self reflective after the thought.
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